Long-term friendship transitions

When a Longtime Friendship Starts to Change

A friendship can change without a fight. The calls become less frequent, plans keep getting postponed, or you realize you’re hearing about important moments after they’ve already happened. It can hurt to miss someone who’s still in your life.

Decide what you want to say, if anything

If you’d like to reconnect, you can start with a simple observation. “I’ve missed spending time with you. Would you like to get coffee?” leaves room for an honest answer. If you’re feeling repeatedly excluded or hurt, you might first ask yourself what kind of contact feels manageable and what you want from a conversation.

Some friendships settle into a new rhythm. Others end without the explanation you hoped for. You can grieve what mattered about the friendship while making room for new connections.

At Femme Health, we make space for friendship changes, including the ones that are hard to explain to people who didn’t know what the relationship meant to you.

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