Healing and support
Healing After Domestic Violence and Finding Support Along the Way
After experiencing domestic violence, even an ordinary decision can feel difficult. You might second-guess what to say, feel on edge when your phone buzzes, or wonder why you miss someone who hurt you. You may feel relieved one day and grieve the next. Those feelings can exist together. The abuse was never your fault, and you deserve support wherever you are in the process.
What healing can look like
Healing can begin with small moments of choice. It might mean making plans without bracing for someone’s reaction, reconnecting with a friend, or noticing that you feel comfortable speaking up about what you want. Some days, it might simply mean getting through the day and letting someone help.
If you’re still in the relationship, unsure about leaving, or in contact with the person who harmed you, you can reach out for support now. A domestic violence advocate can help you think through your options and create a safety plan for your circumstances. You can start with a conversation, even if you’re still figuring out what you want to do.
How support can help you move forward
- A trusted person can listen and help with one practical thing. You might ask a friend to sit with you while you make a call or check in after a difficult appointment. Share as much as feels safe and comfortable.
- A domestic violence advocate can help you explore options. An advocate can talk with you about safety and connect you with local resources such as shelter, legal support, or counseling.
- Therapy can give you room to talk about what happened at your own pace. You might want to work through fear or grief, rebuild trust in your own judgment, or find words for boundaries you want to set.
- A survivor support group can offer connection. Hearing from people with similar experiences may help you feel understood. It’s okay to listen first and decide what, if anything, you want to share.
At Femme Health, we believe you should have a say in what support looks like. If you’re exploring therapy, we can talk with you about what you need and whether individual or group care feels right for you.
Where to find domestic violence support
In the U.S., the National Domestic Violence Hotline can connect you with a live advocate. Call 800-799-SAFE (7233), text START to 88788, or use the online chat. If you think someone may monitor your phone or browsing activity, use a safer device if you can. If you’re in immediate danger, call 911 if it’s safe to do so.